Lately when I have received messages through any form of social media or when I am reading an article or news piece, I’ve often wondered if the writer has any idea of their level of influence or about how their tone can change someone’s mind. You might be asking yourself “well isn’t that the point of social media or basic communication, to freely speak your peace?”. Well one would like to think that society understands and appreciates the meaning of and the impact that communication has but I beg to differ. I believe that more often than not individuals pull up their soapbox and stand on their personal premise no matter who it affects. Unfortunately you are a minority if you give consideration to the feelings of others before you send an email, post a comment, tweet an opinion or speak directly to someone. I challenge you to ponder this perspective:
Whether you believe it or not, we are all people of influence. Someone is watching you and someone is listening to what you are saying. Someone is hanging on your every word and someone is depending upon you to be an example. If we could all take the value of relationships and rank it among the most priceless things, we could create change; change for the good of the people. We’ve all heard the phrase that “people need people”. But If I could amend that phrase I would suggest that “people need people who care and who are responsible with how they influence others”.
We are all given assignments in life and these assignments are centered around other people. We must be responsible for the relationships we are assigned. It could be the relationship with your spouse, children, family, co-worker, Facebook friend, twitter follower, neighbor, the friendly cashier at your local store, that lonely committee member, your nail technician or your mechanic. Nothing or no one happens by coincidence, it’s all for a purpose. Whoever it may be, you are responsible for your influence over them. Take care of what you say, manage your influence, realize your impact, and monitor you behavior. Whether it’s the people we know directly or indirectly; we are connected with them for a reason. Cultivate, build up, do not condemn, do not judge, edify, encourage, be gracious, show love, give strength, offer sound advice, stop gossiping and finally, be accountable and a person of integrity.
We are pre-qualified for every assignment We are given the responsibility of people on a temporary basis, like a loan. They belong to God! Now what we do with the loan is completely and entirely up to us. The fine print of the loan is sixty-six books, front to back, Genesis to Revelations, of instructions, expectations, and examples. The greatest example of all is Jesus! He valued every encounter, relationship and opportunity to help others and his help wasn’t based on his emotions but on the needs of others. After-all, he knows everything about you, yet he has called you friend. John 15:15
I know that thinking of every relationship or encounter as a responsibility may sound like too much work or too complicated but when you are following divine order and seeking to please the one that has shown you perfected love, it all makes sense. Ask yourself these questions before your next conversation, post, tweet, blog, instagram, or tag; What are my motives? Will this help someone or tear them down? Am I coming from a pure place? How would I feel if it were me?
And remember to “be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.” Galatians 6:7-8 KJV